June is Pride Month and I’ve often wondered what it is to be “proud.” I came out over ten years ago when I was 19. I didn’t go through a lot of trials and tribulations in high school that most gay men have. I went through some, but I was never public about it. In fact, in high school, I convinced myself I wasn’t fully gay, so why did I need to say anything to anyone? I thought I was capable of suppressing whatever part of me had gay feelings so that I could marry a nice girl and live a “normal” life. It turns out that the part of me I was trying to suppress took up a whole lot more of me than I led myself to believe.

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I started watching The Big Bang Theory last night. Figured I’d download the first season to see if it was a show I could get into. I will have to admit the laugh track was a little jarring at first. I almost didn’t expect it. I watch so many “sitcoms” without a laugh track, I almost got used to there not being one. In fact, I can’t remember the last time I watched a show that had one. It was kind of distracting.

Sure, the show had all the flavors of a sitcom. It has the obvious deliberate staging of the actors and the comedic timing between jokes to let the punch line sink in or let the slapstick play out. All these things that seem archaic left a bad feeling in my mouth. I had to stop after the pilot and watch something else on Hulu.com and get back to it.

I watched the next two episodes and started to notice the brilliance in it. (more…)

This video makes me feel all warm and mushy inside.

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This was incredibly nerve-wracking to watch. I’d have to say that my biggest fear is to be bashed or attacked for being gay in public. I’d rather jump out of a plane a million times before ever going through this verbal and/or physical abuse, even if it was just a test and I knew these guys were safe.

With that being said, this video made me really happy and hopeful that things are starting to change. Tolerance really is starting to become a traditional value and I feel like we’re headed in the right direction.

This story alone is pretty awful and the fact that this shit still goes on in San Francisco, regardless if it happens in North Beach or the Marina, is pretty disturbing. But, the real story is in the comments section.

There’s so much hate and blame being passed back and forth from both sides. Is this really about people needing to mind their own business or is this really about a hate crime?

BOOMBOX from Ely Kim on Vimeo.

100 days, 100 songs, 100 locations, 100 dances.

(Had to repost this. h/t to Jasten.)

Tomorrow, I’m starting a 30-day sobriety experiment. Lately, I’ve noticed that I go out a lot and I’ve been drinking a lot. I figure I really need to take a break and take some time off. I would never want to go completely sober and quit drinking indefinitely. I just figure that I really need to get away from that lifestyle and take a few steps back and evaluate my life. I’m going to use these 30 days and really focus on working out and losing weight and get back into the routine I established before the whirl-wind of the holidays hit me.

Last summer, I started taking boxing lessons. I really wanted to learn how to get in shape and I thought the best way was to pick up a skill or to learn a martial art. I wanted to learn something and at the same time feel motivated to work out and get into shape. After a few lessons, I really liked my trainer and what I was learning. I liked what he was doing at the gym and I liked everyone I was meeting there. His gym is actually a barbershop/boxing gym and he cuts hair, which to me is a pretty awesome idea. (Check Michael the Boxer out at his website.)

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“Fidelity”: Don’t Divorce… from Courage Campaign on Vimeo.

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